As I watch my tiny baby grow into a toddler, I am amazed. Already she exhibits a desire for independence. While she likes to know that I am nearby she also enjoys “doing it herself.” Walking, reaching things, getting into small spaces, finding toys, and the list goes on. She giggles in delight with each independent act.
The first time she started walking consistently was exciting! She knew she was doing something great. She was proud of herself. Giggles and screams of joy filled our living room. On her own, she could do it. She could walk from one end of the room to the other without help from mom or dad.
This morning as I reflected upon her independence I thought of myself and the struggles I have been having lately. Since I can remember I have wanted to prove to the world–anyone around me, and myself that I am strong. I am independent. It is true that children should grow and find independence. That is a good thing. What I am talking about here is unhealthy independence. The kind of independence that will not seek or receive help from others. An independence that is self-preserving and lacking humility.
Often times in our home I find myself trying to do it all. Trying to prove that I am strong and independent. Showing that I don’t need my husband. I feel weak and incapable if I have to ask him for help.
In reality, my actions are prideful and damaging. We are united in Christ. We are one. Functioning together, relying on one another at times is healthy. Ephesians 5:31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” ESV
My husband and I are in this life journey together. We need each other and that is okay.
Likewise, the church. We need each other. We are a body. God designed. We are not weak in our need for one another. Admitting our need for help actual creates strength. United. One body. Body of Christ!
1 Corinthians 12:18-26 18 But our bodies have many parts, and God has put each part just where he wants it. 19 How strange a body would be if it had only one part! 20 Yes, there are many parts, but only one body. 21 The eye can never say to the hand, “I don’t need you.” The head can’t say to the feet, “I don’t need you.” 22 In fact, some parts of the body that seem weakest and least important are actually the most necessary. 23 And the parts we regard as less honorable are those we clothe with the greatest care. So we carefully protect those parts that should not be seen, 24 while the more honorable parts do not require this special care. So God has put the body together such that extra honor and care are given to those parts that have less dignity. 25 This makes for harmony among the members, so that all the members care for each other. 26 If one part suffers, all the parts suffer with it, and if one part is honored, all the parts are glad. NLT
Hebrews10:24-25 24 And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works,25 not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching. NKJV